Spilled Ink by Alexandra Grant

Spilled Ink by Alexandra Grant

What's It All For?

Bad Things That Happen Teach Us Valuable Lessons

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Alexandra Grant
Jul 06, 2026
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What’s It All For

The forest for the trees, the forest for the trees. A mantra so often used that I’d forgotten to pay attention when the trees in my life obscured the forest.

It was late in 1998, when my short six-year marriage was imploding. I’d spent so long in panic that it had become my new normal. My marriage to Spence was never ideal. Running from a cruel family, I had latched onto the only person who made me feel wanted. What a mistake that had been.

Six years of being ostracized for marrying the dolt I was now trying to hold on to. Why was I clinging? I don’t know. This man was ignorant and slovenly most of the time. Lazy to a fault. He stopped working once he had moved in with me and married me.

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